Shana and Michael: It all
started last July. I was baby sitting my younger cousin Kristian while my
aunt was out of town for the weekend. As it was getting late I put Kristian
to bed and I began to watch TV...
She's From: ? He's From: ?
My name is Debbie and I am 46. After
several lonely years, I was connected to a chat line by a colleague.
After only 2 weeks I had a short list of 4
interesting males to chat with.
This was soon short-listed to one (Don), as
I became bored with the others. Don was 10 years older than me and
married. I felt it was harmless chatting to him for fun. However, we
soon found that we had a lot in common and after 3 weeks of daily chats
we exchanged photos and phone numbers.
Our evening chats soon became the
highlight of my day, and after a few weeks we decided to meet in a city
midway between our homes. We lived over 2000 kms apart. The first 3 days
we spent together rivalled the splendour and joy of Cinderella and
Prince Charming and when it was time to separate we were quite desolate.
We had both vowed that his wife would not
learn of our friendship and that his marriage and career would not be
threatened in any way. However, we soon found that we were needing to
meet more and more often, and soon he started to fly to my home town and
stay in my house with my son and I. He also met my relatives and friends
and it became widely known in my hometown that we were an "item".
Even though I loved him deeply and
cherished our moments together, I found it was difficult having him in
my home as some of his habits were unconventional, and he demanded a lot
of my time, reducing my time with my children. At this time, his wife
discovered a letter I had written to him and she contacted me to beg me
to end the relationship with her husband. He was adamant that he wanted
to stay with me, so she has asked for a divorce, and has told him not to
come home. Now he is at my home and I feel morally obliged to keep him
here as I was responsible for the breakup of his marriage, his removal
from his home, and his distance form his friends, children and
We still share exquisite moments
together, but a lot of problems have been created. Sometimes I wish I
had been a little more cautious. It is certainly true that the chat-line
was an incredible means of accessing each other's innermost thoughts.
Even though physical appearance was not important it was a pleasant
surprise to meet and find mutual physical attraction. We have
experienced the most incredible emotional highs. I really don't know
where it will go from here. I know I would feel completely desolate if
he were to leave my life now.