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She's From:   United States
He's From:     United States

We began our relationship on June 18, 1996 as pen pals or better termed, email pals. Just two kids looking for a friend.

 

Little did we know of the adventure that awaited us. Join us for a tour of our relationship with emails, pictures, and journal entries through out. Souls can and do mould together through the mysterious avenues of the world wide web.

Humble Beginnings

"In June of 1996, Wendy came quietly into my life. I'd posted a rambling little bio on Cyberfriends the year before and forgotten about it.

Wendy ran across it and wrote me a little message asking, among other things, my shoe size.

 

 



   

 

 
       
 

We emailed back and forth and looked over each other's homepages. But soon our messages began to get deep and personal. I'd never met a woman who was willing to discuss an issue philosophically or consider an idea which had upsetting implications. At the tender age of 19, Wendy had already chosen to deal with the complexity and uncertainty of real life.

Yet I'd never met the girl. Finally we saw each other on August 16th, 1996. But before I met her I knew I loved her and wanted to marry her. Thus we loved before first sight.

It's been a chore to break the news of our relationship to our families since none of them had seen it happening and we'd only barely met. They've mostly come around though and have given us their blessing, as strange as our relationship must seem to them.

Wendy is a miracle. That a sweet, young, bright girl would choose to trust and love someone with my past and hardness and scepticism isn't something I understand. Yet it's real, so humbly I accept the challenge to love her in return."

"Philip" 
Dec. 1996

First Email
From: Wendy
Date: Tue Jun 18 22:09:38 1996
To: Philip
Subject: Hey Phil

Phil,
Hello there! It's nice to hear from you--I assumed you never got my message. I vaguely remember writing you. I found your name on Cyberfriends one day and decided you sounded like a good guy (you mentioned you were LDS and that your family/friends mean a lot to you...we have a lot in common.) Oh ya, the 'Claudia type' was your description on the kind of females you wanted to befriend. I don't consider myself a supermodel--but I can hold my own.

You sound like you're fairly busy w/ work and playing...like my life. I'm holding down two jobs while taking a credit at Ricks. In between, I dance, waterski, or just talk with friends on evening walks. It is kinda crazy because I barely have time to sleep. But I love keeping busy.

I am a sophomore at Ricks college majoring in Nursing. I'm excited for school to start up again because then I will move back into my apt. (I love my family but I find myself continually asking for patience.) Although, it seems mighty quiet around here; they all came home for Father's day weekend (I'm fifth out of seven kids).

Good luck in your job at BYU; sounds pretty cushy (just count your blessing that you don't have to wake up at 5:30 am to do custodial work). JK, work is work!! Where do you live, what are your hobbies, what is your shoe size (WOW, were getting pretty personal here)?

Write back soon,
"Wendy" (my friends call me 'peter')

P.S. Whoops, I didn't intend to write a novel; that is another thing...I LOVE TO WRITE! 
 

First Meeting 
August 16, 1996
Provo, UT

"I got to his apartment a little after 11:30 am. I was so nervous I felt sick, and couldn't sleep the night before. After I knocked, I felt him pause before opening the door. My heart was going crazy! We said hello and he invited me in. He was cute! Everything finally fit together. His looks and voice I knew from pictures and phone calls where now so clear in person. He was a stranger, yet the inner person I knew and loved.

We hugged awkwardly, side to side, and then sat down on the couch. I was so nervous, so we decided to walk up to campus. Right after we got out the door, he put his arm around my shoulder and said, "It's so good to have you here." I was so gone in him, I just put my arm around his waist as we walked the four blocks to campus. We held hands somewhere in there too. . .it all happened so naturally and felt right."

"Wendy"
Aug. 20, 1996

"Wendy is an incredible woman. I've never met anyone like her. She has changed a hard, skeptical pessimist into someone who feels loved and who can love. She is an unforgettable woman: young but wise, warm but allows total freedom. (She's a very sweet kisser as well, and a sucker for a good tickle fight.) As strange as it feels to say it, I know it's true: I love her."

"Phil" 
Aug. 18, 1996
 

Long Distance Love
October 27, 1996

Dear Philip,

Hello cutie! I wanted to write you a real letter since PowWow fell through. I'm sorry about that hun. I've got the worst luck with Amy's computer. When we chat on Thursday :-) I'll probably go home; it'll work then.

Don't worry about writing a lot; I know you're busy. All I need to keep me going is a message every once and awhile, if you can...every day. Doesn't even need to be long, just a "hi". I'll continue writing whenever I have time through out the day, because I love doing anything for you. Thank you for telling me that the letters keep you going. I'm so glad :o)!!

Philip, I know you are a good man. You have a good heart, incredible integrity, and a humble spirit. You would do anything to make me happy and this is so important. I feel so special when I'm with you. I want to do better. I want to be worthy of your love.

You've done so much for me. You encourage me to be myself, to share opinions, and give my all. You've helped me out of my hell by teaching me correct principles. You've helped me feel beautiful again. You've shown me that I can love, even with all my little quirks. You are very patient with me and I thank you.

I can't believe how only five months ago you weren't a part of my life. I can't even imagine how it used to be when I was alone and not feeling our kind of love. It is so special and unique to only us. I hope that it'll continue to grow.

Phil, I love you. *tears* I feel so much for you. It's deep, sure, and everlasting. I can't ever imagine losing these feelings that I have. You mean a lot to me--->so DON'T EVER DOUBT IT! Even when I'm stubborn (I get that way when I'm upset). You are cute.

Well, Sweetheart...the dishes are calling me. I better go clean them before they get hard and crusty. Eeeww! Oh guess what! You'll get a laugh outta this. I pulled some Rhodes Dough out of the freezer and plopped it in a bread pan without greasing it. So, when it was all done baking I had to cut around the pan to get it out. The whole mess isn't even worthy of the term "loaf of bread". So, I just pick at it. LOL Nope, can't bake...at all. I love you babe. You make my life worthy living. Have a good day! I love you!!

"Wendy" :o) 

The Engagement
January 1, 1997 
Ricks College Gardens

"I have something for you," Phil said. He got down on one knee, "I brought you here to ask you to marry me." He opened a box, but I didn't look at the ring. I gazed into his sweet, humble, pleading face. He took my hand and asked, "Will you marry me?" My heart was shouting for joy; I knew my prayers had been answered. My eyes overflowed with tears as I said, "YES!"

The Wedding

May 2, 1997
Idaho Falls LDS Temple

The Baby

Ethan Philip
Oct. 30, 1997
2 lbs. 5 oz.
14 inches
Provo, UT

"Wendy and Philip"