She's From: United States
He's From: United States
Online romances do and are happening --
every day. Our story is just one of several that we know of personally.
When we met at the beginning of November in
a 40s channel, a relationship was the furthest thing from our minds. We
developed a heartfelt friendship and neither was looking for anything
more. There wasn't any pressure to develop a romantic relationship, and
since the pressure of "courting" was off, we could be ourselves.
In the beginning, we had talked about meeting at some point in the
future but it wasn't a priority, we were just friends. We were having a
great time! We had found someone to talk to about anything and
everything without worrying about making good impressions, we were
having a ball just being together.
We laid out ground rules, promising
each other that we wouldn't use the "L" word, love, that we wouldn't get
caught up in the emotions because we didn't want to lose either other
over a relationship gone bad. The feelings deepened with each day, we
began to know each other better than we even knew ourselves. We loved
spending time together and couldn't wait until we were back on the
computer so we could talk and laugh some more.
Our phone bills went up. Our kids talked to one another both on the
computer and over the phone. Paul's girls, ages 8 and 17, and Paula's
girls, ages 8 and 15, got along great! We would hook up all of the
extension phones and all of us would chat on Sundays. More and more we
had to remind ourselves that this was a wonderful friendship and nothing
more, but it seemed to be evolving into something much more. We seemed
to fit so well together, our ideas, hopes and dreams were so similar. We
had so much in common. Our kids were enjoying this as well.
By mid-January we had confessed to each other that we both felt there
was something very special going on here that we couldn't explain and
that we owed it to ourselves and our families to see what it was. We
decided to meet. Between car problems and illnesses, two attempts
failed. Then, at the beginning of February, Paul had a business trip and
didn't have access to a computer for a week. That worked out great, it
gave us both a chance to reevaluate the situation, a cooling off period
so to speak. As it turned out, it was the most miserable week either one
of us had ever spent. We both went through the "this-is-nuts-this-isn't-going-to-work-this-isn't-possible-what-the-hell-am-I-
doing" phase. When we were finally back together on the computer we both
knew that we couldn't put it off any longer…we needed to meet. There
wasn't any doubt about it, we NEEDED to meet just to verify what we were
feeling was real.
On February 19th we met for the first time. It was amazing; it was more
like a reunion rather than a first meeting. We had a wonderful time that
weekend, going to a concert, shopping, and spending time together. By
the time we parted late Sunday afternoon, we both knew that this was
meant to be. We made more plans for seeing each other and set a move
date for August. Each successive meeting was even more enjoyable than
the last. The move date was much too far away, so, on April 3rd, 1998,
two families came together as one and we are having a great time.
We are pleased to announce that our wedding date is October 30, 1998. We
are planning a small family wedding in the afternoon (Paul's older
daughter is marching in the band at the football game in the evening)
and a larger reception in the evening. It seems to get better each day
and we are like two young lovers because for the first time in our lives
we are truly in love and happier than we have ever been and ever hoped
"Paul & Paula"