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Life was going on. At its own pace and me
still to find out where my Mr. Right is! and so, one fine day I put my
profile on an internet matrimonial site, knowing that it does not always
work!
I started getting replies, but it was not working because of many
important and sometimes silly reasons. I gave up. And next day, there
was a mail in my mailbox with the subject line - Leap of faith. It was
him - Mr Smiley! He had written to me for the FIRST time, I was reading
his mail for the FIRST time and for the first time I felt that there
could be somebody for everybody!
We exchanged mails and found out that we had much in common. Our dreams,
our priorities, our approach towards life, even our childhood
fascinations. We both knew what we wanted in life and that was so much
similar. We wrote about all this for 3 days and the fourth day we
decided to get married! Without seeing or meeting each other!!
A week before that day, I would have laughed
over this silly idea! I would have called it 'funny' or even 'insane'.
But it was happening and it was so rapidly happening that I just flew
with my emotions. I knew It was a risk but isn't it risk to stay in home
when most people die inside their homes?
I knew marriages don't take work by
themselves. We have to make them work. We have to do our part in such a
way that the other person is bound to do his! In most of the failed
marriages, its the blame game. "You didn't do this? " "You said this!"
etc.etc.
But if we try to say "Could I have done
this?" "Could I have stopped myself from saying this?", then most of the
problems would disappear automatically! So, I decided to live this
dream, fell in love with him and there we were! When I met him
personally for the first time, I asked him the same question, "Didn't
you think you were taking a risk?" He smiled at me, tenderly held my
hand and said, "When you know what you are not looking for, you also
know what you are looking for. I know exactly what I am looking for in a
person to marry, and all those things are intangibles.
It is not the color, caste or creed but her
genuineness, it's not the money, materials or education but her inner
strength, it's not the physical beauty or appearance but her honesty and
true love which make her 'a woman of substance'. And I knew my woman of
substance!"
And that very moment I knew that the risk I had taken is going to give
me give me true love and happiness throughout my life! We believed in
each-other, we believed in destiny, we believed that life is what we
make out of it, and we believed that we should get married!
But for our parents it was not-so-easy to
believe. They were bewildered. But we were sure as rock! So they agreed
to get us married..Happily! Thus our leap of faith resulted in a life
long journey of love.
We both are married now. staying together,
sharing apartment and our dreams joys sorrows apparently sharing our
lives! it is easy now. it might be difficult tomorrow but the leap of
faith will always hold us together. we will make mistakes but will learn
from them, we will discover new things about each other thus to learn
something new about our own-self! We will grow together. that is our
FAITH!
I told you, it only happens in movies. It
happened with us.
"Jyoti"
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