And then she entered the room: "Princess_jaz".
It was her first time of using the Internet/Chat, she was using a
computer in a mall close to her workplace. We started to talk and
talk....and from the very first moment there was this special feeling
inside me.....I really can't describe, but I liked her from the very
first words she was typing. After awhile we exchanged our e-mail adds
and logged off.
Directly after this I wrote a very long mail to her. Normally I'm not a
big writer but I wrote everything which came in my mind. And she wrote
back and so it started :)
4 days ago we met another time online for chatting. I was so happy and
excited, my feelings really already grew so much at this time. We were
talking about this and that and somehow we were talking also about the
upcoming Valentines Day. We told each other how is the loved one treated
on this special day in our different cultures. We promised each other to
write a Valentine card and exchanged our home adds.
So I received a card from Jas at Valentines Day...her very first card
for me and it was so lovely. I was so touched and my heart was beating
so fast. On this day and on so many other days I was watching and
reading this card over and over and I couldn't get enough of it.
After that I went to Finland for visiting a friend, it was already long
time planned. It was only for one week but I had no chance to write to
Jas by e-mail or to receive any. I can't tell how much I missed it, how
much I missed to hear from Jas. I think at this time I realized how deep
my feelings were for her, that I really love her so much and I couldn't
await to be home again to write her and to hear from her.
Back home again I immediately started to write again and so we continued
to write us every day at least 1 e-mail and additionally letters and
postcards. And with every day my feelings to Jas grew more and more and
I realized that I love her so much...without ever seeing her, not even
on a picture and without having listend to her voice. I just believed
that the way she wrote is the pure her and reading all of her words is
just like diving into her soul, thoughts and dreams. I couldn't live
anymore without hearing from her. Then came the time that Jas gave me
her phone-number and we took it to the next level. On the 14th of March
1998, 44 days after getting know to her I finally dared to call her. And
listening to her voice, talking with her made me float high in the sky,
my heart almost explode and I just felt like the happiest guy on earth.
Now came the time that I have passed my exams and after that I got
unemployed. It was really kind of a hard time. I've got only very little
unemployment money from the government and I still needed to write Jas
every day and read her mails and to call her at least once a week. At
this time the phone cost were very high here in Germany and so I had
really a hard time to pay the phone bills which were almost as double as
high as my small income. But without talking and chatting with Jas I
don't know what would have happened. And she mentally assist me also
through this time. I've sold things like my Music-CD's, Computer Games
and my most loved Electric Guitar to friends to pay the bills and I used
up all my savings to stay in contact with Jas and thinking back I really
don't regret anything. After 3 months I finally got a small job at a
strawberry farm where I earned enough. Another month later I got to my
actual job and moved to our actual living place which is the city of
So it continued. Every morning the first thing for me to do was checking
my mail, every time I got back from work the first thing was checking my
mail. And I spent the rest of the day with reading Jas mails and letters
over and over, dreaming of her, writing her, sometimes calling her. My
whole daily routine consisted of Jas, everything was turning about her.
Only interrupted from work. Then some fine day in early September 1998
she told me that she is going to book a flight to Germany in October or
November. I was so unbelievable happy, I really couldn't await it. And
from that day on I was counting the days til her arrival......which was
finally on the 30th of October1998, exactly 10 months after meeting each
other on the net.
Jasmine should arrive on Frankfurt International Airport . So I was
driving down there in time, the distance to Frankfurt is about 600km and
I don't wanted to be late. I was looking forward to finally see her, was
so nervous and happy. I was only worried that my car got wrecked, some
motor damage or something and Jas is waiting at the airport and I can't
inform her what happened and can't pick her up. You know bad things
always happen when you don't expect. But well, nothing happened and I
arrived at the airport 2 hours before her plane should land. Enough time
to search for the correct gate. Then I saw on the display that her plane
has landed....and I was waiting and waiting for her to come out of the
gate. I think another 45 minutes later she came out. She was wearing the
same dress than on one of her photos she sent me. But also with another
dress I would have recognized her immediately. She looked like an angel,
so beautiful, so charming. I ran towards her and we hugged each other
the very first time. It felt so good to be so close to her.
We were going to my small car and started our long way to my home. It
was already 5pm, Jas had a 10-hours flight in her bones, a 6 hours time
difference and we still had about 6 hours to drive. She was so so tired
which was understandable after such a trip. It was a silent way back. I
am kind of shy and all of sudden having Jas sitting next to me in the
car, I don't know, all my wishes got true but somehow I couldn't fight
my shyness talking to her as I talked to her on the phone or on the net.
So we haven't had much to talk, Jas was tired and sleepy and me too shy.
But as we got home at midnight and it suddenly appeared that Jas kissed
me.....such a wonderful moment, I had goosebumps all over my body and I
wished this kiss would never end.....I don't know, the spell was broke
and me not so shy anymore.
Jasmine and Holger in Germany
The following 2 weeks we spent with so many things, going out for walks
hand in hand, visiting the city, walking at the riverside, going for a
movie (still remember it was Halloween H20.....didn't imagine before
that Jas would be that scared :) ), visiting the zoo and so on. We were
just happy being able to spend our time together, to feel each other, to
kiss each other, just to know that the other one is always so close.
We visited also the first time my parents and we had a really nice time
with them. They liked her from the first moment on, they had so many
things to ask her and I was busy translating. Jas felt also kind of good
After 2 weeks my leave ended and I had to work again. Leaving Jas alone
for half a day made me really sad. I knew I would miss her so much. And
how would she feel? The first time that she has to spend alone in a
forreign country, not knowing any people, not speaking our language.
Almost all of the germans can't speak really english or they don't dare
or they don't want. I don't know. But that made it also very hard for
Jas because I was the only one she could talk to. I think it was a very
hard time for her and I am so proud of her that she never gave up. In my
freetime we were doing so many things like shopping, going into cinema
or for concert and for sure spending it together. We were never parted
besides of the time I was at work. But this time was already too long.
Well, mid of december, Jas was already with me for almost 6 weeks, we
thought of that there are only 6 weeks left for her to stay. We don't
wanted to be parted again and so we were first thinking of marriage. And
we decided to marry, we loved each other endlessly, already before we
met in person, and additionally we had to marry to stay together. It was
not one of those romantic proposals, I wasn't kneeing in front of her
with a rose in my hand, no love-music was playing in the background,
nothing like this. I just asked Jas and she said "Yes" and that was it.
Nothing more and nothing less. Anyway, we went to the marriage office
and announced our marriage and the officer told us what things we do
need. It was kind of much and we realized that maybe the time would be
too short concerning that inbetween were also the christmas and new year
Well, we needed a confirmation of a malay office that Jas is not married
yet, we had to send back copies of her birth certificate and her
passport to let them translated from malay to english. And after we got
all this we had to translate it here from english to german. Then all
the documents should be sent to the state law court to be certified and
accepted and sent back to the marriage office. Whew, for all that we had
only 4 weeks (minused off already the holiday season), but we tried all
to accomplish it. The first step was that we informed Jas' Mum and her
Dad asking for help and doing all the document stuff for us in Malaysia.
Christmas came and we celebrated it at my sisters place together with my
whole family. And somehow Jas was already included, she was treated as a
family member already which made me so happy. And on the days staying
there we forgot for a short moment about our problems.
Beginning of 1999 we were going to the forreigners office, asking if Jas
could extend her stay or if she could get a permission to stay. Well,
they weren't too friendly (I guess it's their job not being friendly to
people who apply to live in our country) and they said Germany is no
imigration-country, it's an asylum-country. Which means immigration only
in special cases and that you've to apply for asylum. Which is
ridiculous, there's no reason for a Malay to apply for it. So they said
there is no way to stay longer in Germany than the 3 months, you can
only extend for 1 week and after that it's illegal. At latest now we
realized that it will be very hard, almost impossible to get all the
things done til the end of the month.
The days past by and as the month was going to end soon we got so
anxious, so nervous and we were thinking of the solution that we both
fly back to Malaysia, stay there for some days and come back to Germany.
In our minds was only the thought of staying together no matter what and
we weren't be able to think logic anymore. We borrowed money from my
parents, were going to the travel agency and booked a flight Hamburg -
Kuala Lumpur and back. The next day all of sudden it came into my mind
what if the German custom officers don't let Jas in anymore. Full of
worries I called the custom main office in Frankfurt and explained our
situation. Well, the officer said that they wouldn't let her in again
because there have to be at least 3 months in between the stays. Should
have asked earlier, now we bought already the tickets and we knew we
couldn't fly. Going back to the travel agent I realized that we haven't
made a travel-insurance and that we won't get any money back. The
tickets are bought, we don't fly, they're not refundable. That's it.
Then we got all papers ready and translated. We went to the marriage
office so that they could send all the papers to the court. The officer
said that could last up to 1 week but we had only 3 days left til Jas
had to leave. The officer wrote then a letter stating that we marry soon
so that we can show to the foreigners office. We went there, showed the
letter, and still they didn't allow Jas to prolong her stay. Now they
only suggested us that Jasmine has to apply for a marriage visa at the
German Embassy back in Kuala Lumpur and that this will take at least 2
months, maybe longer. I felt like the whole world broke into pieces, all
our hopes were gone and I was so mad, mad at the offices, mad at the
laws. It wasn't right, nothing was right and it seemed like everything
was against us. We cried the whole day, the whole night. We cried
without stop, we hugged each other, we didn't wanted to let loose. I
felt never that sad and hopeless before in my life. Only 2 more days
The day before Jasmine should leave we were going another time to the
marriage office asking how is the process of our documents. And they
weren't finished yet. We told the marriage officer also about what they
have said at the foreigners office and that Jas has to leave tomorrow.
The officer was very nice and he called the court asking for our papers
and they said on Monday they will be sent back and confirmed. It was
Friday, so if there was a way that Jas could stay we could marry only 3
days later. Well, the marriage officer called then the lady at the
forreigners office and told her in a kind but certain way the we would
marry on Monday and that she shouldn't be so narrow-minded and pedantic
and let her stay until then. The lady agreed and she said if we come on
Tuesday with the marriage certificate Jas would get a permit to stay.
That all was kind of last minute and without the help of the marriage
officer we would have been parted for a uncertain time. I can't say how
much we appreciated his help and how thankful we still are. Getting to
know that we can stay together was one of our happiest days.
Well, after getting to know that we can finally marry we for sure called
our parents telling them of our luck and happiness. The ceremony then
was at the 8th of February 1999. As you can understand nobody of Jas
family could join. So our only guests were my parents and my brother &
They picked us up at our home and my dad drove us to the marriage
It was snowing a little bit before our ceremony and it was kind of cold.
The whole ceremony was such a nice and wonderful moment and finally both
of us exchanged the rings and kissed each other. So unbelievable but all
of sudden we were Mr. & Mrs. Diederichsen and nothing can divide us
anymore. Now we could stay together forever. All our dreams came true.
I think in the same moment we both said "yes" it started to snow more
and more. We came out of the marriage office and everything was already
white. So beautiful. Our wedding dinner then was in a small classy
restaurant in the middle of a forest. And the drive to there was so
romantic with all the surrounding white trees. Very unforgettable.
Jasmine and Holger at their wedding
Well, that's our story. Since then we live
together happily married and loving each other more from day to day. For
anyone interested, our website is
here. On our site you
can see our small cute daughter who was born only a little bit more than
9 months later.