Not wanting to shut down for the night, I
did a search to find someone else on that instant message program to
I simply put in that I
wanted to chat with a male, aged 20-25, in the United States. As the
list of names came up, one in particular caught my eye. (I probably just
liked that he had cat in his screen name.) I checked his profile, and
found that we seemed to have a lot in common. So I decided to message
him. "Do you want to talk to a girl who thinks anime is cool?"
After a few moments he responded "sure"
(It took him a few minutes....he had to check my profile.) We talked for
hours, about the basics: age, location, likes, dislikes, siblings, etc.
We hit it off instantly! Quickly- it got
to be routine that we would hurry home every night, because we couldn't
wait to chat with each other. We joined a role playing game together and
got very into how our characters interacted. When our computers weren't
able to IM, we emailed each other, receiving/replying several times a
day. I started to see things when I was out shopping, that made me think
We decided to exchange snail mail
addresses and phone numbers. This lead to sending each other little
things we found we knew that the other would love, and a call or two.
The enjoyment that the two of us got from hearing each others voices (I
LOVE his slight Southern accent) lead us to get cell phone plans with
free long distance and 'nights and weekends'. After that, it seemed to
those around us the cell phone was a permanent attachment to our ears.
His mom kept saying she couldn't figure out what we could have to talk
about for so long!
By November we seemed to be very much in
love, and we had never met!
He bought a plane ticket, and we eagerly awaited January 4, 2002. As the
days dragged by, the phone was a great help, even while opening the
Christmas gifts sent across the country. I was incredibly surprised to
walk into work on December 18th to find a dozen roses had been delivered
to me. When I called to thank him, he said "Happy Anniversary! We've
known each other for 3 months!" I remember pacing around the house for
hours before his plane landed. And he felt butterflies in his stomach,
not only because he was meeting me for the first time, but he had never
been on a plane before.
As I pulled into the Oakland airport
parking lot, my cell phone rang, and I heard that familiar voice. I
parked, and began to walk toward the building saying "where exactly are
you?" Then looking up I noticed a person on a phone at the top of the
stairs. At the same time he noticed a person on a phone walking toward
him. "Is that you?" we asked in unison. Then a wave and hanging up the
phone. We saw each other face to face, and I swear my heart skipped a
beat. We hugged each other, standing in each other's embrace for a long
time, already not wanting to let go. The weekend spent together was
We cried as I dropped him off at the airport 4 days later. As soon as he
got home we were on the phone again. After a few days of missing each
other, he told me he had decided to move to California, just to be close
to me! We excitedly discussed our plans. He was going to fly up for my
Birthday (Feb 12). While here we were going to search for a place to
live. He was fortunate that the company he works for had a shop here in
the Bay Area and he was able to transfer. Then we were going to fly back
to Alabama, on Feb 14, load all his stuff into a U-Haul, and drive for 4
days back to California. "Sounds like a good plan!" I said.
After a long pause, he said "Do you think
you would marry me someday?". Pausing to think, I replied "yes".
"Really!?!" he said. "Really really!" I giggled, liking the idea more
and more. "Would you marry me now?" he asked cautiously. "Actually
....yes" I said quietly "why don't we do it when we're there, so your
parents can come?" "Oh My Gosh! REALLY?! That would be great!!" he
He spent the next month preparing to
move, transferring information, planning the trip route, saving money
and finding out facts about obtaining a marriage license. I packed up my
stuff, kept a look out for a place to live, and tried to figure out a
way to break the news to my family.
We survived it all, and wadded through
the stress. He flew out for my birthday as planned. While here, he got
down on his knees, and asked me to marry him, letting me know how much
he loved me, how happy I made him, and how I had changed his life. He
had decided he couldn't live without me. He gave me a beautiful ring.
On February 15, we had a short and sweet
ceremony at the Probate Court of Mobile County. The reception was a cute
cake and the sandwiches his grandmother made. We took many rolls of
pictures. Shortly after we were married we hopped into his truck and
drove to Navare, Florida for the night (our Honeymoon). We came back the
next day and loaded all of his boxes into the U-Haul trailer. At 4:30am,
Feb. 17, we got up, got some coffee, and hit the road. We left Alabama,
went through Mississippi, Louisiana, and into part of Texas. We stopped
in Oklahoma for the night, to visit his friends. The next morning the
ride was 9 hours to Albuquerque, New Mexico....to stay at the "World
Famous Albuquerque Holiday Inn".
The trip to Bakerfield, CA seemed to last
forever. And the final day we got home in time to go sign the lease for
our first apartment! We had survived the ride...no bumps. We, amazingly,
got along great for the whole trip!
We have gotten moved in, and are getting
used to waking up to each other every morning. coming home to each other
every night. It's a wonderful thing that makes us both enjoy each day
more than ever. We can't wait to eat that frozen piece of wedding cake,
that rode across 8 states with us, to celebrate our first year and all
the many to follow.