I met Gil in November in a Virtual Places
20ish chat room. I was in my dorm room chatting there because I am a shy
person and found chat rooms to be an easy way to let myself talk to
guys. I was going about my business and feeling like a flirt when I saw
his screen name. It struck me as odd (evilpuppylord), so I sent him a
private message asking him "are you really the lord of evil puppies?" He
must have thought I was some crazy person because all he said was, "uh,
I guess so."
That's when our lives began to change. We
talked until 2 or 3 in the morning and could hardly wait to get online
the next night to connect again. Gil would tell me stories of girls he'd
meet or talk to in real life and I found myself becoming very jealous.
I wouldn't let him know
though, because I thought it was crazy of me to think he and I would
ever get together, much less meet in real life. We had been talking for
about 2 months before he realized that he wanted to take our
relationship to the next level (I knew within the first couple days that
if possible, I wanted us to be together). So, he did it. He asked me to
be his girlfriend. We were both happy, excited and shocked at what we
had agreed to do. I mean, how crazy is it to actually meet your
girlfriend/boyfriend online?! Nowadays it's not that crazy, but 3 years
ago it wasn't so popular.
It took me forever to get Gil to agree to talk over the phone...even
after we were officially a couple. When it finally happened it was even
more exciting than the night we decided to be a couple. We finally met
in person a year later when he flew up to visit me a few days before
Christmas. I should mention that I was only 18 when we first started
talking, although I turned 19 a few weeks later, and he was 23 about to
be 24. My parents insisted that my mom come with me to greet him at the
airport. I swear they thought their usually intelligent daughter had
been abducted and replaced with a reckless one! But, largely they were
supportive and Gil and I finally met.
When we saw each other at the gate for the first time, it was almost
like magic. I started grinning from ear to ear and practically ran him
over as I rushed up to him to touch him for the first time. I was
stunned just about the whole day, not knowing what to do or say, not
believing that we were actually face to face and holding each other. It
was one of the most incredible days of my life. We could hardly keep our
hands off each other in the car, except we had to because my mom was in
the front seat. I was still shy though and didn't know what to do.
We finally got to my house and Gil and I took his stuff back to my
bedroom and were finally alone with each other. We immediately embraced
again and tried kissing. Being that I had never kissed a guy before and
was a virgin in every way possible (as was he), I failed miserably. I
tried too hard and our first kiss was sloppy and awkward, but it was
still beautiful. We spent a couple days in my town before we both got
back on the plane and took a trip to L.A. where Gil lived. I spent a
couple of weeks down there until it was time for me to come back for
school again in January.
Ever since then we've been communicating over the phone, through email
and over ICQ. He's visited me a few times, and I go down there whenever
I have a break from school. I am now about to graduate from college, I
have only a few days left. The love of my life is coming to see me on
the 28th and I'm packing up as much of my stuff as will fit in the back
of my car and we're taking a road trip back to LA where we will start
our lives together.
Being in a long distance relationship is one of the hardest things a
person can do in their lifetime. Gil and I have had many tough times.
There have been a few times when we've actually said so much that we
were going to call it off. Thank God we didn't. We both believe that we
are soulmates and truly believe that God sent us to each other. The
thing we have in our relationship, the key to a long distance
relationship is communication. You have to be able to tell each other
everything. you have to be so comfortable with your partner that you can
and will share anything and everything with them.
We got engaged this past Spring and have plans to marry. Our journey is
not over and the hardest parts are still waiting for us, but we have
God, faith and true love on our side. I can't wait to start my life with
this sweet, sensitive, sexy, kind and loving man. He means the world to
me and I thank God everyday for sending him to me.