Neither of us are the type to engage in online flirting... nor were we
looking to find someone.
I was just wanting to learn German. I thought that the best way to get
better with German is to chat with a German! So I searched for a safe
person, someone that I thought was not out trying to get a date.
I emailed Christian on 2-24-99. I explained that I wanted to learn
German and asked him if he wanted to chat sometime.
It was not long before we started to have very deep feelings for each
other, we could not believe that we could have such strong feelings for
each other just by chatting over the computer and a few phone calls. We
had to know... so in June of ´99 I was off to Germany to meet this man!
We knew then, without a doubt ... We are soul mates.
Once Upon a Time...
It all began when I flew to Germany to meet Christian in June of 1999.
This was a real life fairy tale, complete with champagne and chocolate
in the morning, beautifully lit castles, long walks along the Mosel
river and being with my prince, Christian.
I was whisked away in a worldwind... and I have never been so completely
We stayed in Ernst... A little town nestled along the Mosel River. As
far as the eye can see, hills and hills of vineyards, and the wine...
Fabulous! It was more than amazing...
Sharing wine together high up into the vineyards. As we held each other
overlooking Germany, feeling the warmth of the wine... Surrendering to
the moment, making love in the most romantic place on Earth.
I knew I loved him. It did not take long... At the close of our third
day, cuddled together out on our private terrace under the most
beautifully starlit sky. I knew that this was the man for me... My soul
I had fallen so helplessly in love. And for the first time in my life, I
could do nothing against it.
Christian is... The Love of My Life
Things we did
My time in
Germany and with Christian went far too fast.
We experienced so much in those 2 weeks ... The Dom in Köln (509 steps
straight up! Eeeek!!!), "H2O" a fun indoor waterpark (I loved the
slides!), visiting castles, riding byclycle on the cobblestone streets
of Gütersloh, the food was wonderful (especially the cheese, bread,
spargle and tomotoe soup!), the beer (Oh I loved the beer!) and walking
arm in arm late at night sharing a bottle of champange... Mmmmm.
Since then, Christian has been to the US to visit me 2 times... The
third time he came was to get me and take me back home to Germany with
I loved Germany so much! When I got home after my trip.. I had felt so
homesick for Gütersloh, I no longer felt like I was at home anywhere
else. I wanted to go back again right away. As of May 21, 2000 we landed
in Frankfurt Airport... not again having to leave Germany or the arms of
My home now is in Gütersloh Germany. I LOVE IT SO MUCH HERE! I still
have to get this language thing though! HELP! The kids and I have never
Not so easy for us
It was not so easy for us to marry here.
All of my paperwork had to be translated into German. That was very
costly and time consuming. Every time that we had thought we had it all
done, there was still something else to do!
On July 5th, 2000 we were on our way, with our kids in tow, off to
Düsseldorf to the US Embassy for still yet more paperwork (and money!)
to be completed. We had left early in the morning to beat the traffic.
It was a rainy morning. We were suddenly ran off the road and into the
railing by a truck and then he left sped off, leaving the scene. Thank
God we were all ok!!! We totalled our car on the Autobahn. I had a back
injury but it has healed nicely. I am so thankful that our children were
not hurt. Alex had some bruising from the seatbelt as we were bounced
off the guard rail and then into another truck. We were tossed around
pretty hard. Let me tell you... I was thankful for those bruises on his
Well that took some time to get back into the paperwork swing of things
as we still needed to make it to Düsseldorf and we had NO car! Well
after a few weeks we got another car and made it (Phew!) to the US
Embassy to (spend more money) and finish our paperwork.
Well, finally we were able to hand in all the completed forms as
requested. And we were able to set the date!
We Did It!!!
On September 4, 2000 Christian and I were married in Gütersloh Germany.
We just celebrated our first wedding anniversary on Sept 4th 2001. We
have now been living here in beautiful Gütersloh Germany together with
our 2 children for a year and a half.
As with all families, we go through our tough times, adjusting to a
whole new life, culture and language alone presents us with new
challenges. But no matter what we go through it together, as a family.
We know that we can never be without each other. We have the most real
and incredible love. We are so blessed to have found each other.
My Romance Advice
Wait for the right person, no matter how long it takes. It is so worth
it! You know when it is real love, when nothing can stop it... not even
Don't marry someone that you can live with, marry someone that you
cannot live without. When you have that person, do not let them go. Love
is too precious to lose.
Träume nicht dein Leben, lebe deinen Traum.
(Dream not your life, live your dream).
Do not settle for just anyone... wait for the right one.
I guess you could say...
"And they lived, happily ever after". For anyone interested, our website