Who's to know if the person you are chatting
to is who they say they are?
Before getting online, I had read stories of
people who falsify their age, make outlandish statements about what they
look like, and even have cyber-sex changes. One day, a month or so
later, my mind and set ways were overcome by something too
a shy person in real life, my net birth was much the same way. I would
go to chat clubs and just ghost, not knowing how to start conversations,
and once in them, trying to carry on with it. I felt much safer watching
the others talk. Do you know how many questions would run through my
mind when I would get e-mails from strangers?
For instance, how the heck did they get
my addy in the first place? I wouldn't talk, no one new me, was it those
damn cookie crumbs? Anyways, those first 3-4 people who just popped up
in my mailbox, helped loosen me up to the net way of life, I was still
wary, but my conversations were lengthening.
One night, I was just flirting around
with a friend in a chat club (yes, one fear had been overcome), not
paying too much attention to the other conversations, when someone else
started directing questions my way. After not noticing her first few
questions, she SCREAMED one at me. I think we all know how it
is.....those damn caps lock always made us look and read! The friend I
had gone to the chat club with originally decided to call it a night,
world time zones had intervened, so I quickly scrolled back to read and
answer this "new" person's questions. It was so strange reading those
questions, they were so familiar......so me??? It was soon established
that she was from my country, although from another state, we just
I think we spoke for about 4hrs that
first night, but it seemed like only a few minutes, time flies when
you're having fun......as they say. We soon formed a close friendship
where we talked about everything without any fears or reservations.
Weeks went by and we never ran out of things to say to each other, my
heart strings were playing the most beautiful melodic tunes you can
Neither one of us having cybersex before,
we just embraced each other and fell lovingly onto our cyber-bed letting
this moment sweep us on a wave of passion. The fireworks we created that
night lasted until the well after the midnight oil burned up. It was
certainly a night that both of us would not forget, it was truly
wonderful. It also propelled us to wanting to create the scenario in
Christmas was soon upon us and being in
different states and having family commitments, both of us were quite
busy, she was also going to visit her relatives in another state, so our
time together online was put on hold. A week passed and my heart felt
like it was slowly being put through a meat mincer, she was my air and I
was slowly suffocating through lack of her. Fortunately it was a hectic
time workwise and the days passed quickly, it was just the nights I had
to deal with. Then she phoned me at work...........my heart convulsed
like it was being defibrillated, butterflies were fluttering inside me
bouncing off my stomach wall, my hands shaking as we arranged to
meet--SHE WAS IN MY STATE!!!!!!!!
Walking into that bar, through that sea
of faces and knowing straight away who she was, I'd never seen her pic
before, but she was how I pictured her in my dreams. That first kiss was
surely a taste of heaven, the moulding of our bodies as we held each
other tightly was on a higher plateau. For the next two days we were
entwined in each other, there was no world like this, no wars, no news,
no problems..........just us.
A few months later she moved down here,
about 20mins from where I live, we often talk about "our good old days"
and how we both hold it close in our hearts, we are best friends and
share time, even if we have both started other
relationships...........lovers come and go, what we have is much better.