During the setup process, I could not get
anyone to accept a call from me to test it. About to give up in despair
and frustration, my call was accepted by MC. I could see from his
profile info. that he was from England near the Scottish border. He was
receiving my picture and sound but I was only getting audio from him. We
assumed it was the software and kept chatting. It seemed that no time
had passed when we realized that we had been talking for hours. He told
me that he was glad I had mistakenly called him, and told me I was very
pretty. We sent photos thru file transfer and agreed to share a chat in
the future. A couple of days went by and I got an e-mail from him chit
chat mostly but it contained a link to his album page.
He told me to check out his family. So I
did. I gathered that he was older than I had thought, married, and with
a son only several years younger than I am. Plus the ocean in the middle
factor. But my thoughts weren't that far astray yet. We talked and
talked and talked. Text chat, voice chat and netmeetings. And of course
we both outlined our history to one another in the e-mails. After the
first month it became apparent that not only did we have lots in common
but it felt as if we'd known each other forever. Our connection seemed
to get stronger daily. I learned early on that his marriage is nothing
and hasn't been for nearly twenty years (hope it's true) but never could
get much of a straight answer as to why he is still with her. I think
it's for financial reasons though.
He says that he never expected to find
anyone else and had settled for his lot in life or some British remark
to that effect. I was not sure what to make of this. Truth or
sugarcoating? Into the second month he began begging me to come to the
UK for a weekend or even just a day (transantlantic flight for a day?
Hello?!) but I explained that I needed to finalize the custody agreement
first. After reading the Scary Story of Sue and Barry, I am worried that
I will end up like Sue - jilted for the wife. I will have the
opportunity for some vacation time next June, and we have agreed to meet
for a week in Scotland. It seems so far away when we feel so strong a
need to meet now. It feels very strange to love him as a stranger. But I
feel like I know everything about him and more. How do I get him in
motion about ending things with his wife for his own sake? Because he
deserves to be happy. I am tired already of the sneaky feeling that
permeates our time together. And if we are soul mates as I feel we are,
I want to stay with him in June when I fly over.
How do I let him know without making him
angry? The wife is a touchy subject at times. I know it is a long
process to split over there and I just want him to stop dragging his
ass. This is only October, and I know eight months is a long time and
numerous things could happen between now and then. So I would love to
know how you all think this will end.
I will tell you that he is the most
thoughtful, polite, romantic sweetheart of a guy that I have EVER met.
He tells me the sweetest things rains down compliments about my beauty
and I just know he loves me. We have cried together in moments of deep
tenderness. He calls to wake me almost every morning and gives me an
uplifting comment before the "cheerio". I think of him all the time and
he says the same. What should I do?